Goldilocks Syndrome

Success derives from indifference; at least that’s what society tells us. We don’t like to let our emotions run wild. Instead, we’d rather medicate ourselves into a bland state of mediocrity before our extremes get the better of us. Everything is designed as a sedative. The first time we express “too much” or “too little” energy we pump ourselves full of medications to be even-keeled and “normal.”

It’s not only restricted to medications.

We’re constantly bombarded with social media, TV shows, movies, Netflix binging, you name it. Anything to keep us from actually motivating ourselves to do or be more. When you spend your day getting cozy on the couch, relaxing to your favorite show and seeing how inadequate you are compared to all of your Facebook friends, who would have the energy to get up and strive for more?

We want to succeed; we have great dreams, but we’re slaves to sameness through fear of failure. We’ve been raised in a culture that will do all it can to keep us quietly even-tempered. It’s a trap of toxic routines and remedies.

So what’s the answer? How do we handle such an apathetic epidemic?

Consider Goldilocks.

She walks into a house and tries three bowls of porridge: “too hot” and “too cold” are not satisfying, but lukewarm is perfect. She then goes to the beds: “too hard” and “too soft” are not comfortable. But the center is just right. She gets so comfortable she falls asleep, and what happens then? The bears come home and gobble her up.

Comfort breeds complacency. Goldilocks is a prime example of how we live our lives.

We strive to find the easiest, most comfortable way to do things; so we grow complacent. We don’t want to work hard for anything–just hand it over. We don’t want to struggle–so we won’t even try. We don’t want to make our own food–just make us something. We don’t want to try new things–we hate change.

Goldilocks is who we were before we knew Christ.

That doesn’t mean we can’t still fall into those ruts; but as Christians we need to realize the dangers of complacency, comfortable, and lukewarm.

The minute Goldilocks gets complacent what happens? She falls asleep.

We need to wake up!

The extremes are where we thrive. They may not be comfortable, they may stretch us, but that is where we grow. It is in the lows that we are able to grow the most. We learn the most about God’s character and who He is in our lives. We learn to rely on Him above all others. It’s in the highs are where we push forward the most. We are able to make the biggest leaps in our faith, take bigger risks in His name, affect more lives for Christ.

Don’t sleep through the blink of this life. Don’t let things pass by that you could be a part of. Don’t assume other people will handle things if you don’t. We are all taught to think that way and then suddenly nothing is ever done by anyone.

And the consequences of falling asleep? In comes the bear to gobble us up. The enemy takes full advantage of our dreary eyes and overtakes us. We are no longer able to grow, affect change, or leap. We let him take control of our future and we are unable to fulfill God’s plan for our lives. Rather than curling up, playing online, and passing out in an endless cycle waiting on the bear to show up; we need to wake up, exercise those faith muscles, and start taking more leaps.

I’m not saying all things are better in extremes. Certainly, going for a run is easier when it is neither too hot nor cold out. But real growth doesn’t come from the middle-ground. Existing relies on being even-keeled; but leaping requires willingness to explore the limits.

Don’t settle for life on the flat-line. Don’t be a walking victim of this world’s apathetic-coma. Those spikes on the heart monitor, the highs and lows, those are your life; the very breath of God, willing you to be more than you ever imagined possible. Each tick another lesson, another life changed. Don’t sedate a miracle. Embrace your life in Him; His plans, His power, and His lessons that can only be taught outside of your comfort zone.

Get uncomfortable, fight the bear, and change a life with your story.


Where can you start embracing some extremes? What discomfort in your life might really be a lesson God is teaching you? What highs and lows can we be praying each other through as God is growing us?

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